Life is full of tensions. As I work with people in organisations I am forever noticing the ubiquitous nature of the tensions that are a reality of how we live and work with one another. Their existence is an indicator of the complexity of our social experience. They make me feel uneasy, uncomfortable and unsure and yet safe, held and with options (Yes, isn’t that a paradox?!)
Becoming increasingly aware of how we are surrounded by tensions and paradox has been illuminating as well as confusing and has shed new light on how I view my work as a consultant. Below are just a few of the tensions that I experience in my work. I’m sure they’re not unique to me. Perhaps by sharing my experience, I can continue to be a part of a conversation about what it is we do in this messy reality of life.
But there are no clear solutions or answers...
If so, then what am I selling?
I feel frustrated when I read misleading blogs online such as “10 steps to becoming a great leader” or “5 ways to a really effective team”... if it was that easy, surely we wouldn’t be facing the display of poor leadership we are seeing around the world? Hypocritically, I also recognise that in some way I am doing the same thing; offering hope that by engaging us as consultants we might be able to provide relief and some ‘sustainable strategies’ for improving the effectiveness of how leadership groups in organisations work together. Yet, at the same time (the tension), I wouldn’t be doing this work if I didn’t believe what I did had some use for myself and for others. Hearing people share their experiences of their personal learning journeys as part of a programme I have been running makes me feel validated, useful and that I am making some sort of difference to people’s lives.Who is it that I am really serving?
Me and my family? My organisation? The client organisation? Or the people within the client organisation? The reality is, I think it’s all of these at the same time and therefore the way in which I choose to act and respond in my work is inherently conflictual. Is it really possible to serve each of these groups in isolation? To satisfy the needs of one without sacrificing the needs of another? My experience says it’s not. I am working because I need to earn a salary in order to support the well-being and lifestyle of myself and my family. That means that I am incentivised to retain my position within the organisation and that means ensuring that the organisation remains a viable business. To remain a viable business and do the work we believe is ‘good work,’ we need clients.These are just some of the questions I find myself asking. If these tensions are true for me, then I also believe they might be true for others. When we work and live with people it is inherently conflictual and we can’t pretend it isn’t... (yet we often do, in our desire for a harmonious, homogenous society - I certainly do!) How is it then that we can name some of these more uncomfortable parts of our social experience with one another and explore them more usefully? What even is useful? Maybe the saying ‘ignorance is bliss’ is quite compelling after all.
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